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Time：第123次例會，2011年06月24（週五） 晚上7:30~9:30
Place：人文年代咖啡
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Agenda
14:30~15:30 Free Talk / Topic Discussion
15:30~15:50 Speaker Session
15:50~16:00 Change Group and then Break Time
16:00~17:15 Topic Discussion
17:15~17:30 Happy Time
Host: Please volunteer
Assistant Host:
Ice Breakers:
Please introduce yourself to your group.
What do you do for a living? What do you do for fun?
How did you learn about Happy English Club?
What current events have you noticed recently?
What good movies or concerts have you enjoyed lately?
How did you spend your holidays? Was it hard to readjust after the break?
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Topic: Bad Choices, Bad Habits (文章)
Source: http://depression.about.com/cs/selfhelp ... habits.htm
(Notice: Harris gives us a wonderful supplement as the following, please also print it.)
4 Powerful Tips for Breaking Bad Habits
The first step to breaking the bad habits is to identify them. Only after identifying them can you decide to do something about them. Here are two tips for identifying the bad habits you might have:
Compare your life with your value system
Do you live according to your value system? Or do you deviate from it here and there? Your value system acts like a compass that guides your life. When you do things that are not according to your life compass, you know that you have a problem. So look for things you consistently do that deviate from your value system. Those are your bad habits.
Compare your life with a role model
Sometimes it’s easier to compare your life with someone else’s life than to compare it with an abstract value system. So find people whose life you want to emulate and find the details of how they live their life. Is there anything they don’t do that you consistently do? For instance, perhaps they are never late. You, on the other hand, are perpetually late. That’s a bad habit you should stop.
The next step after identifying the bad habits is to break them. I’m glad I found some good tips for it in the book Become a Better You by Joel Osteen. While the book is based on Christian principles, many lessons in it are universally applicable including its suggestions on breaking bad habits. Here are four tips to stop bad habits based on the book:
1. Quit feeding the bad habit
There are two “wolves” inside us that fight each other. One wolf represents good habits while the other represents bad habits. Which wolf will win the fight? The answer is the one you feed. So breaking bad habit is actually simple: just stop feeding it. Leave the bad habit starve and you are on your way to get it away from your life.
2. Replace it with a good habit
Quit feeding the bad habit is essential but it’s not enough. You must also replace it with a good habit. Otherwise there is an empty space in your life where the bad habit could go back to anytime.
So develop a good habit to replace the bad habit. For instance, if you have the habit of thinking negative thoughts, you should replace it with the habit of thinking positive thoughts. Whenever negative thoughts come, use it as a trigger to start thinking positive thoughts. Or if you have the habit of eating unhealthy food, you can start developing the habit of eating healthy food. Just don’t leave the space empty.
3. Press past the initial pain and discomfort
When breaking a bad habit, the beginning of the process is the most difficult. Just like getting a space shuttle lifted off the Earth takes enormous amount of power, it also takes enormous amount of willpower to break a bad habit. And just like moving a space shuttle that has escaped the Earth’s gravitational pull takes little energy, it also takes only little amount of willpower to continue doing your new habit.
The initial phase is the most difficult, but it will become easier and easier over time. So whenever you think that it’s too difficult to stay on course, just remember that it won’t be so for long. You just have to keep moving forward.
4. Make “no exceptions” policy
Once you decide to break a bad habit, stick with your decision. Make no exceptions to come back to it for whatever reason. I know it’s not easy (at least for me), but this step is essential if you want the process to get easier over time. Making exceptions is like taking a space shuttle back to Earth; you need another enormous amount of power to lift it off again. So be careful not to make exceptions when you are dealing with bad habits.
These four tips are simple but powerful. Using the feeding analogy, the tips to break a bad habit boil down to this:
Quit feeding the bad habit. Feed a good one instead.
Questions for Discussion:
1. What habits do you need to eliminate now? And what positive habits do you need to develop to make your life look like the way you want?
2. Is there any bad habit you really hate while someone is doing in front of you? What will you do? (let it go, warning the person to stop it or what?)
3. After reading this article, do you have any other tips you think that are very helpful to quit bad habits?
4. How do you form good habits to balance your work and home life? Please share it with us!
Dear Happy members,
There are some points to be noticed in the gathering informed by our founder, Happy. Please kindly follow the procedure.
1. Print the article and bring it to the gathering venue.
2. Look for the pink flag of Happy English Club or ask the waitress to get it and put it on the table in order to show every comer.
3. Freely talk for one hour more and then discuss the article for one hour more.
4. Please ask the new attendees to leave their contact information and send it to me . (Karen)
5. Please volunteer to bring a camera and ask the waitress to take a photo for all the attendees. Make sure you put the flag right in front of the camera so that the flag seems to be a big one and then send it to me . (Karen)
6. In the end of the gathering, please volunteer to keep the minutes of the gathering on Happy English Club's forum in the club issue section. You can share your ideas, conclusions, what you learned, and so on with our members without limited words. viewforum.php?f=75
7. If you want to host a meeting, please refer to the following Host SOP and let me know. You can email me the link of the article and 6 related questions for discussion.
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Thanks for your support and cooperation! If you have any questions, feel free to let me know. (P.S. the flag, attendees' info, a photo, minutes)
Best regards,
Hsinchu Host Master, Karen Hu
例會須知 1. 請準時到場，以維持例會品質。
2. 參與例會前，請自行列印或抄寫例會當天討論的文章及探討的問題並帶至現場。
3. 參與例會前，請先閱讀例會當天討論的文章並請先思考過探討的問題。
4. 來賓不需事先報名，可免費觀摩3次，各分會會員費 1000 NT只需繳納一次，終身有效。
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第二、四週週五晚上
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