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Time：第35次例會，2005年 12月 23日（週五）晚上7~9點
Place：
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19:00~20:00 Gossip
20:00~21:00 Topic Discussion
Host: Cathy Lin
Assistant Host: Annie Chung
Supporter: Ian Ting
Source: http://www.rd.com/content/openContent.d ... ntId=12564
Topic: How Friends Help Us Cope
Having friends may well keep you healthier and help you deal with stress better. Some studies show that people with close friends have a greater ability to fight disease than people who are solitary. Make friendship a priority. Find the time to be with friends even if it means letting the lawn go unmowed or the dishes unwashed for a while. When you can't get together, use the phone to keep in touch.
Open up to close friends. Maintaining a deep friendship requires a level of " psychological intimacy." Don't be afraid to express your inner fears and disappointments. Listen to your friends when they have problems, but offer advice only when it's wanted. Help reaffirm friends' self-esteem when they are shaken by a job loss, divorce, or other such event. Have different friends for different activities, such as going to the movies, singing in a choir, and participating in a bowling league. Don't wait for a friend to ask a favor. When a friend has the flu, offer to go to the store or drive the children to their after-school activities. Never take a friendship for granted. Like a good marriage, friendship needs nurturing and patience. Become a joiner. Find a group that matches your interests. You might look to your church or synagogue for activities. Or try a library, a health club, or an amateur sports group.
You can also start a group, such as a discussion group on gardening or books. Place an ad in a community newspaper to find people. Talk to strangers (using discretion and common sense, of course). Conversations started in museums, laundry rooms, or bookstores can lead to firm friendships. Enroll in an adult-education course. A classroom is an ideal place to meet others with similar.
Questions
1. What's your definition of "good friends" and "bad friends"?
2. Do you think that friends could influence us a lot? What would you do if you found out that your friends’ misbehavior? Will you try to stop him/her doing that or have you had the experience of being misled by your friends?
3. Share us your ways/methods of maintaining the friendship.
4. Do you have friends who reach out their hands whenever you need? Especially while you were suffering from deep sorrow.Such as you break up with your girlfriend/ boyfriend . Share your own experience with your lovely new friends sitting next to you.
5. Do you have the experience of being a '' bad friend ''? If yes, tell us about it .
6. Do you have some friends who you find to be very '' clicked '' with you? What are your requirements of choosing friends? (On what basis? What kind of personality or terms?)
7. Are you being supportive or considerate to your friends while they were encountering difficulties? If you are, share your experience with your group partners.
8. What is your plan for the coming Christmas? Tell us about it.
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