20150516, Article, Taichung

[Jasmine0316]

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Time：第 311次例會，2015年5月16日（週六）下午2:30~5:30
Place：
viewtopic.php?t=15

Agenda
14:30~15:30 Session One
15:30~15:50 Speech Session
15:50~16:00 Change Group and then Break Time
16:00~17:15 Session Two
17:15~17:30 Happy Time

Host: Kevin
Assistant Host:

Topic:
10 Reasons to be Okay with Being Disliked
Source:
http://tinybuddha.com/blog/10-reasons-t ... -disliked/

Please Note:
Venue:台中市南屯區大業路182號 Mos Burger
Thanks a lot for your attention.

Questions:
1. The true freedom is overcoming the fear of being disliked by other people. And being disliked by some people might indicate you are true to yourself. Do you agree or disagree with the statement like that? Who dislike you? And what makes people dislike you? What are the advantages and disadvantages of being disliked? How much do you care about being liked or disliked?

2. Due to the fear of being disliked, most of us have a hard time saying no and expressing our thoughts freely. Is it difficult for you to say no to others? Likewise, is it difficult for you to tell others about what you really feel? Why or why not? Tell us your experiences about these two scenarios? Do you have polite or indirect ways to say no or tell the truth to others?

3. The most common anxiety for human beings is interpersonal relationships. Do you agree or disagree with this statement? Do you get along well with your family, friends, and colleagues? Why or why not?


例會須知
時間地點須知：
http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=15
協會章程：
http://www.happyforum.org/Association_Principle.htm
各分會章程：
http://www.happyforum.org/Club_Principle.htm
協會會員會費及各分會會員會費及入場費：
http://www.happyforum.org/15.htm
參與例會，請自行列印當週的討論文章，並帶至現場
http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewforum.php?f=33
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http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewtopic.php?f=1&t=1766
週六晚餐(Saturday Dinner)
http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewforum.php?f=76
戶外活動(Club Outing)
http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewforum.php?f=72
所有行程(All Schedule)
http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewtopic.php?t=883

[Jasmine0316]

Dear Taichung Happiers,

“Always dream something big so the haters can stay in their job.”

What do the various kinds of relationships (family, classmates, friends, colleagues, etc) mean to you? Is love a quality we were born with, or learned? Why do haters hate? However, you are not alone if you have haters, and our host Kevin is assuring us that it’s okay to be disliked.

The enduring wisdom of Ancient Chinese philosopher Lao Tzu can soothe people attacked by the anxiety Jaws of labeling ourselves or being labeled. “Because one believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn't need others' approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” Being liked or disliked shouldn’t have any impact on our decisions of doing the right things and relentless pursuit of our core mission. Dr. Paul Conditt illuminates the power of self-acceptance--saving the energy wasted on defining the judgments, which we receive from others and ourselves, for focusing on what we value most. http://drpaulspsychologyblog.blogspot.tw/2013/12/the-power-of-self-acceptance.html

Congratulations, if you have haters. If nobody dislikes you, you are not popular enough. Everyone is adorable. Haters just don’t understand you well enough. English poet William Blake (28 November 1757 – 12 August 1827) requested our eyes of understanding. “If the doors of perception were cleaned everything would appear to man as it is, infinite. For man has closed himself up, till he sees all things thru chinks of his cavern.” Now, let us see how the power of understanding created the miracle. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hJDidwZ2_Wo

From “Song of the Open Road” (by Walt Whitman)
“I am larger, better than I thought;
I did not know I held so much goodness.

All seems beautiful to me;
I can repeat over to men and women, You have done such good to me, I would do the same to you.
……………
Whoever denies me, it shall not trouble me;
Whoever accepts me, he or she shall be blessed, and shall bless me.”

Appreciate our haters, for they witness the fact that we are engaging and authentic. Appreciate them for shedding light on who we have become. Also appreciate them to remind us to have a certain empathy with people. "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8vii1wyxntU

All seems beautiful (True!). Either you are liked or not, hold on, please. Cool kids seem to fit in—true or false? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7U7s5JjyYp4 Mmm….., true or false, so what? You are the only one person you can ask to practice The Golden Rule.




With Gratitude,
Jasmine

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20150516, Gathering, Taichung