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Time：第 410 會，2017 年 11 月 11 日（週六）下午2:30~5:30
Place：
viewtopic.php?t=15

Agenda
14:30~15:30 Session One
15:30~15:50 In-house Speech Contest
15:50~16:00 Change Group and then Break Time
16:00~17:15 Session Two
17:15~17:30 Happy Time

Host: Harris
Assistant Host:

Topic:
How to Be a Good Listener

Source:
https://m.wikihow.com/Be-a-Good-Listener
Reference:
https://tw.voicetube.com/videos/38287

Please Note:
Venue: 台中市 台灣大道2段2號6樓之5 (親家大樓)(台灣大道與五權路口)
Thanks a lot for your attention.

Questions:

1. Which 3 points in this article do you think are the most important? Please explain why.

2. We have a lot of conversations with the people surrounding us every day. Could you share any good or bad conversations with friends that impressed you so much?

3. Do you agree that it's very important to have friends who are good listeners ? Are you a good listener? Why or why not?

4. If you can have a “gift”, which is being a good communicator or a good listener, which ability do you prefer? Why?

5. Check out which type of listener you are.
http://www.morningstar.com.tw/epaperbox ... hear1.html


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時間地點須知：
http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=15
協會章程：
http://www.happyforum.org/Association_Principle.htm
各分會章程：
http://www.happyforum.org/Club_Principle.htm
協會會員會費及各分會會員會費及入場費：
http://www.happyforum.org/15.htm
參與例會，請自行列印當週的討論文章，並帶至現場
http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewforum.php?f=33
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http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewtopic.php?f=1&t=1766
週六晚餐(Saturday Dinner)
http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewforum.php?f=76
戶外活動(Club Outing)
http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewforum.php?f=72
所有行程(All Schedule)
http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewtopic.php?t=883

Dear Taichung Happiers,

How active is your listening? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JP1Pk62X7XQ

The picture of this Globe in our minds seems smaller than a village, while facebook, twitter, WeChat, and Line winking and whispering on the screen, and another voice simultaneously goes up: to "be" or not to "be", to "be" or not to "be", to "be" or not to "be"........... Our fingers are finally dancing--for what? For listening to more people? Or, less? Tell us, please, what are the barriers to your active listening? In what context can you have best practice of deeper listening? Author and speaker Greg Mortenson has the terrific listening tendency. “When you take the time to actually listen, with humility, to what people have to say, it's amazing what you can learn. Especially if the people who are doing the talking also happen to be children.” To listen is to study--to listen is to soothe--not until we listen to people can we really serve them. Great nourishment requires great listening. Our host Harris is enquiring about how to be an active listener. Besides, we’ll have our In-House Speech Contest during this weekend’s gathering. Welcome to join us in committing ourselves to comprehending the art of active listening.

To be or not to be? Communication or consequence? Never in question. Think about the costs of miscommunication and the worst thing that could happen because of a miscommunication! “I asked my wife what she wanted for Christmas. She told me ‘Nothing would make her happier than a diamond necklace’ So I bought her nothing.” Oh là là! Communication skills are not only the most crucial core competencies to thrive in our careers https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2017/03/in-the-workplace-of-the-future-these-are-the-skills-employers-want but also the key to becoming better family members, friends, and forces. Competent communication stems from active listening. American educator, author, and speaker Stephen Covey (October 24, 1932 – July 16, 2012) recognized the reasons. “To carefully listen is a powerful way of saying to another that we value that person. When we take the time to understand we communicate that we care, we want to understand, we respect their expression, we give dignity and an individual sense of worth. Communication lies more in feeling than in words.” Above all, the goal of listening, the purpose of communication, is to empower people and to flourish organizational culture. https://scienceforwork.com/blog/healthy-organizations/ Therefore, listen for the heart. When people feel heard, their pressure will be relieved, because there’s a thorough enquiry for their vulnerability. The mutual understanding earned by our active listening advances people’s attitude and leads them to take more actions. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cARuUGgSl7I

“Don't Just” (by Roy T. Bennett)

Don't just learn, experience.
Don't just read, absorb.
Don't just change, transform.
Don't just relate, advocate.
Don't just promise, prove.
Don't just criticize, encourage.
Don't just think, ponder.
Don't just take, give.
Don't just see, feel.
Don’t just dream, do.
Don't just hear, listen.
Don't just talk, act.
Don't just tell, show.
Don't just exist, live.

Be present with curiosity and empathy while listening to others. If you want your wife to listen to you, then talk to another woman; she will be all ears. When does communication go right? Is it easier to communicate with people having similar backgrounds with us? Communication is to compose more rooted connections with people. We have to fully focus on what the speakers really want to say, what their aspirations are, and what they are passionate about. In other words, we have to be present to listen actively. What does it mean to be present, if you wonder? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=stnz10c2tt0 Be present with curiosity and empathy while listening to others. How do they say it? What’s their energy level when they say it? What are their emotions while saying it? Listen for instinct. Listen, listen beyond words. Listen to small signals. Signals. Yes. Signals. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OvEci5Bjgd4 Additionally, American writer Alice Duer Miller (July 28, 1874 – August 22, 1942) sang a deeper song. “People love to talk but hate to listen. Listening is not merely not talking, though even that is beyond most of our powers; it means taking a vigorous, human interest in what is being told us. You can listen like a blank wall or like a splendid auditorium where every sound comes back fuller and richer.” So, listen for the heart. Show your interest; step into the speaker’s shoes; suggest great questions. Your desire for listening for the heart delivers a brilliant listener. https://hbr.org/ideacast/2015/08/become-a-better-listener.html

Be present with honesty and integrity while listening to ourselves and the natural world. Self-concept has been proven to be significantly correlated with interpersonal communication skills. And you might ask: how about communicative self-concept? Well, the further research can be quite promising. http://ethos.bl.uk/OrderDetails.do?uin=uk.bl.ethos.547040 However, author Kamand Kojouri especially encourages our self-love. “To begin to know ourselves we must have sincere conversations with ourselves as if with a good friend. We must answer without reserve, listen without judgement, and accept without condition. That is self-love.” Also, to master the art of active listening, encircling ourselves with heartening and honest people who can inspire and introduce our strengths is a big plus. (The natural world and the art works could be our most powerful and prominent friends—particularly when the social media noise can’t make our puzzled looks less obvious. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vu9capmEY5I ) Then, listen for the heart. Listen for the heart and don’t be afraid of being surrounded by a short silence—the silence is the golden opportunity for us to reflect our meaningful words and emotions, and to regain the “gifts”. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jFocDpvTZdw

Communication is to connect people; communication is to co-create the relationship; communication is to conjoin the engagement process. Author Margaux Bergen notifies us of what keeps friends together: “Common history, some shared conquests, a delight in ideas and people and living. But they will also be distinguished by their ability to listen to you. They will not be uncritical, but they will understand and accept you. You will be interested in each other's happiness and well-being.” Literally, listening carries a great power for bonding. Let’s practice, practice, and practice to listen in partnership. Looking forward to listening to the symphony of Happiers’ collective hopes and dreams. Join us. Thanks!!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Pz3hjTJBFA





With Gratitude,
Jasmine