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Topic: Considering Soul Mates
From Stephen Petullo
Source:
http://healing.about.com/od/soulmates/a ... s_tips.htm
Soul Mate Truths and Tips to Make the Most of Your Love Life
The following tips are based on the booklet 55 Soul Mate Truths and Tips to Make the Most of Your Love Life
Consider the Meaning of a Soul Mate
Our perception of soul mates and love relationships are based on movies, television, books and fairy tales. These sources often present only part of the picture due to space considerations, attempts to make the story more harmonious or marketable, or for other reasons. Because of this, they can be downright misleading. The metaphysical definition of a soul mate is someone you knew in a past life, and the following basic soul mate relationship traits have been consistently found through research:
• Most (if not all) are karmic.
• Most (if not all) are predestined (by your soul, not your personality, before you were born).
• We all have many soul mates (but our personalities and emotional baggage will more often than not interfere with a compatible relationship).
• Not all soul mate relationships are meant to be harmonious.
• Not all soul mate relationships are meant to be long term.
Directives from conscience are always for the best.
Sometimes we layer our mind with excuses for not acting on the directive of our conscience. These layers of mental defense fog our mind to what is best for us, blocking out the best outcome.
Consider the Meaning of a Twin Soul/Flame
Some people say that our twin flame or other half was created at the same time as us, and if we could just find each other, we'd live together forever in bliss and harmony. While the idea is certainly appealing, unfortunately, past life and life-between-life research has found no evidence to support it. A more reasonable twin flame definition could be a soul mate with whom we're very compatible and with whom we share incredible chemistry. Alternatively, twin soul or flame relationships are not always meant for love; Edgar Cayce, the famous "sleeping prophet," defined twin souls as souls who come together to achieve a joint task.
Consider the Meanings of Free-Will and Destiny
You can "create" or influence your reality, but only within the confines of your destiny and karma. The bad news: Unfortunately, this means you can't avoid your (love) karma. What is, is. The good news: most major relationships and events seem to be destined. You then have a choice (free will) about how you perceive and respond to them. For example, if you're not destined to be involved right now, you have a choice of accepting it, concentrating on other areas of your life and preparing for a new relationship, or allowing it to cause you unhappiness. As another example, if you meet a wonderful person with whom you are destined to share a short-term, mutually compatible relationship rather than a life-long one, you have a choice of accepting this and enjoying it for what it's meant to be, or allowing the fated ending to cause you unhappiness. You can take the high road or the low road. Reacting out of love rather than fear will create a better life and karma for the future.
Perceive Relationship Endings Differently
Much importance is placed on relationship permanence in our society. It is often said that a relationship failed if it didn't last a lifetime. The (surprisingly) common expectation of being compatible with the same person for 60 years, while being the best you can be is ideal but outdated and usually unrealistic. Relationships in the past were more for economic and practical reasons. Couples were expected to stay together forever, no matter what. Times have changed. Fewer people are trying to fit the old relationship mold and are following their hearts and instincts about the kind of relationship and partner that is best for them. Today, couples are more likely to consider whether it's best for all involved to stay together when they and their situations change, and more of them are parting on good terms. Depending upon how you perceive it, divorce or breaking up doesn't have to cause long term unhappiness.
Consider Your Love Cycles
Just as the moon has phases and the Earth seasons, each of our lives follows individual cycles. Try to force dating or a relationship when you're not truly ready or when solitude and reflection are more appropriate, will only cause conflict and stress. In other words, it doesn't snow in the summer; and you can plant a garden in winter, but it's not going to grow. Also, each relationship has definite time limits and will end or transform whether or not a couple stays together. It is possible to determine when you'll have a strong potential for meeting compatible people, break-ups or relationship transformations, and many other probabilities; life is full of preset circumstances (destiny) and events, and it is up to us (free will) how we deal with them.
Vocabulary:
1. harmonious (a) 和諧的
2. metaphysical (a) 抽象的
3. prophet (n) 預言者
4. karma (n) 命運、因果報應
5. permanence (n) 永久性
6. solitude (n) 孤獨、寂寞
Questions:
1. Do you think nowadays find a boy friend or girl friend is difficult? Why?
2. Do you think the soul mate relationships are meant to be long term?
3. If you love someone who just can stay with you for a short time, would you stay with him or her? Why?
4. When you find a girl friend or boy friend, would you also consider if he or she is the right person for marriage?
5. How to maintain a long term relationship? Please suggest one or two advice.
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