由 ericwon » 週四 11月 10, 2016 4:10 pm
Ladies and Gentleman, Good evening.
Please refresh your memories, when you just entered a new relationship, when the romantic feeling is still very strong, have you ever ask your boyfriend or girlfriend “Do you love me?” I am sure we all want to confirm our relationship with our partner. In this audience, who has asked your lover “Do you love me?” before? Please raise your hand!
Is it OK to answer “No, not really” or “I don’t know” to your partner? If we are not sure what love truly is, I think it’s perfectly fine to say, “I don’t know, but I am working on it.” At least we don’t build relationships upon lies.
Ladies and Gentlemen, an essay written by a Japanese author Manichi Yoshimura inspired my speech today. The title of the book is “25 essential things in Life”, and of course the Greatest of them all is “Love”. The Goal of my speech is to ask you, while we are all longing for Love, “Do we have what it takes to love and be loved.”
The author thinks in today’s society, in media, music and movies, we over use and over emphasis “love” to the point that the true value of love is diminishing fast. If love is everywhere, if Love is in the air, do we still need to constantly talk about love?
Parental Love is the very first kind of love we receive when we are born into this world, but is it guaranteed? A few days ago I read a News from Japan, it was about a single mother who dropped her three years old daughter from a bridge in to a river 20m below, while her daughter seemingly smiling and saying “Good-Bye” to her. Her daughter was found dead a few kilometers down stream the next day. That was a very sad case, but my point is, “Is it too harsh for a society to demand every parent to unconditionally love their children.” Some parents just can’t love their children and the society must offer help and save lives.
How about loving our parents? The world told us to celebrate Mother’s Day, give her carnations. But, for adults my age who have aging parents at home, I am sure I am not alone in feeling anxious and want to escape from caring for our parents. Love is easier to say than done.
It gets controversial nowadays when it comes to love for our country? U.S. President John F. Kennedy once said, “Ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country.” If he is alive, I will say to his face, are you kidding me? Who still loves their own country anymore? We were not born during WWII all right!
Going back to relationships, married or still dating, I think there is no point in worrying whether your partner still love you or not. My suggestion is don’t be too emotional and jump in or out of a relationship too soon. Concentrate on things like scrubbing the toilet clean, be nice to her friends, work and put food on the table together, have the same goal, try to keep the family strong together, give your 100% effort to these types of daily things between your relationship, and I think something special might blossom from there.
In my conclusion, “Nobody can tell us that everyone need to love and be loved!” because we can’t. The Agape Love, the unconditional love, the kind of love that never fails is impossible to give. The Agape Love is what we are all hoping for, but it’s standard is too high. Instead of asking for Love just a few days into a relationship, we should use all our senses, see, feel, laugh and getting things done together with our partners. Just seriously Live Together! Perhaps one day when we look back, we can think. Hey, Maybe that was Love.
