20190615, Article, Taichung

[Jasmine0316]

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Time：第 471 會，2019 年 6 月 15 日（週六）下午2:30~5:30
Place：
http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewtopic.php?t=15

Agenda
14:30~15:30 Session One
15:30~15:50 Speech Session
15:50~16:00 Change Group and then Break Time
16:00~17:15 Session Two
17:15~17:30 Happy Time

Host: Emily Chen
Assistant Host:

Topic::
10 Ways to Become a Super-Likable Person
Source:
https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/293343

Please Note:
Venue:台中市南屯區 大業路182號 Mos Burger二樓
Thanks a lot for your attention.

Questions:

1. Do you think you are a likeable person? What makes you think so?

2. How can you tell if the people you just met like you or not? Which ways mentioned above work best in your social life?

3. Do you think being likeable is very important? Why? Who is the most/least likeable person you have ever met? Tell us about what he or she is like.

4. Do you believe most people can learn to become more likeable?

例會須知
時間地點須知：
http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=15
協會章程：
http://www.happyforum.org/Association_Principle.htm
各分會章程：
http://www.happyforum.org/Club_Principle.htm
協會會員會費及各分會會員會費及入場費：
http://www.happyforum.org/15.htm
參與例會，請自行列印當週的討論文章，並帶至現場
http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewforum.php?f=33
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http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewtopic.php?f=1&t=1766
週六晚餐(Saturday Dinner)
http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewforum.php?f=76
戶外活動(Club Outing)

[Jasmine0316]

Dear Taichung Happiers,

With the new brilliance, look at the mirror again, please. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3yuI_T4hY6E

Do you wish you could be like the cool kids? Because all the cool kids, they seem to fit in? Likability. What does it truly feel like? The word. The tone. The attitude. What would Aristotelian logic say about it? Why does likability matter? Nothing but connection makes everything better. Likability maintains enormous influence in the charmed circle of success. What life purpose could a person find, if he/she hadn’t deeper and meaningful relationships to shine the way? If your experience of requiring likability is like a film, what kind of film is it? Is it a si-fi, a thriller, or, a comedy? Whatever it is, the movie always grows in your mind. Both of the fear and the desire of being liked and accepted are in a constant state of busy equivocating with each other. Most importantly, if being concerned about humanity is too difficult for you, there’s nothing you can do to face the likability challenges. Anyway. How many of you find the word “likability” in your definition of success? And, how do you define “likability”? Dr. Travis Bradberry, an award-winning author, frames the picture of likability. “Likable leaders truly believe that everyone, regardless of rank or ability, is worth their time and attention. They make everyone feel valuable because they believe that everyone is valuable.” So, is likability innate or learned? Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to join our host Emily Chen in taking a glance at the techniques of turning up our personal magnetism.

Be empathetic. “When I see lovers' names carved in a tree, I don't think it's sweet. I just think it's surprising how many people bring a knife on a date.” Likability is the source of all kinds of magic; the secret lies in our eyes. The eyes, to cast the gaze across the crowd,
to read others’ emotions and perspectives. Why? Likability is not about how people feel about us, but about how we make people feel about themselves. Empathy heavily influences likability. Empathetic people read others’ emotions and perspectives to understand others’ reality; empathetic people try their best to reach the reasons behind people’s statements; empathetic people see the world through others’ eyes and open up to share their own perspectives. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FJTB62dh9T0 Empathy fuels connection. Likeable people make us like who we are, who we become when they’re with us. Collective empathy drives positive conversations, feedback, and the culture of sharing. Therefore, it’s never too early to learn empathy. https://www.morningfuture.com/en/article/2019/04/26/empathy-happiness-school-denmark/601/ Empathy amplifies likability by giving hope to humanity--feeling with people and accepting people. Author and Speaker Michelle Lederman simply put, “Time and shared experiences are key ingredients to creating bonds that last.” Consequently, empathy inspires us to renew remarkable courage, take the risk, and get the reward, when fear and hunger are watching over us. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66Dx-12_kvQ

“Empathy” (by George Eliot)

Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible
Comfort of feeling safe with a person,
Having neither to weight thoughts,
Nor measure words--but pouring them
All right out--just as they are
Chaff and grain together,
Certain that a faithful hand will
Take and sift them,
Keep what is worth keeping,
And with the breath of kindness
Blow the rest away.

Be authentic. “A celebrity is someone who works hard all his life to become known and then wears dark glasses to avoid being recognized.” The question of you are, or you are not, “likable” will be at the heart of this discussion; however likability is defined, what truly matters is You, yes, You, are doing the defining. The greatest lesson in likability from Steve Jobs is authenticity. Steve Jobs embraced his imperfections and interpreted the meaning of his past in many different ways. Authenticity is a journey of confidence. Confidence—the hand holding the magic wand so firmly! Being confident is not making ourselves matter; being confident is making people smile with their hearts. Harvard Business School Professor Bill George takes the example of how Oprah finds and fights for her authenticity to teach us how to spell Impossible—I’m Possible! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gmA4cvAx_bQ Moreover, people are so different, yet, also so alike. The first thing we look for in people is the very thing we have seen in ourselves. Therefore, relax, please. Our inability to relax is our last refuge and our last defense. Authenticity makes the world beyond the invisible walls dissolve and the value of our likability surface through the envelopment of our endeavor. https://www.success.com/the-secrets-of-being-authentic-and-why-its-important/ Authenticity comes from being true to the moment, in the moment. Being present is a gift for seeing the world through a different lens. Push aside our fears and allow ourselves to dive into the perfect satisfaction and fulfillment of every moment to smooth all sorts of ripples. Never be tired of indulging ourselves in the flights of a quiet happiness stretching out between us and anyone/anything. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=stnz10c2tt0

Be charismatic. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f5NJQiY9AuY When connection and connection meet, we can not only perform, but also transform! If positive impact is not the goal of likability, what is? Charismatic people are more than likeable, because they have found there are very few genuinely dull people; the secret is to ask them insightful questions. All that matters to us are people and experience. It’s the connection, the sparkle of positive energy, the most invisible yet invaluable tie. Poet Toba Beta reassuringly asserted, “Charisma is the fragrance of the soul.” John Antonakis, a professor at the University of Lausanne, illustrates the significance of spritzing the charisma cologne. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SEDvD1IICfE Meanwhile, as “everyone likes you” can be translated into “nobody likes you”, research results are singing enough-is-enough. https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2017/05/170530101749.htm Yes, there’s good and bad fighting for our likability, and there’s a lot we’ll decide is worth fighting for—our beliefs, our honor, etc. The character of charismatic leaders is contagious. Their words and actions make us long for things and try things we have never thought ourselves capable of. When the veiled indifference of people fills us with the usual sense of anxiety and inadequacy, every charismatic leader is the light in the dark. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7TavVZMewpY

Life is all about chances and choices; connection is the mother of all the chances and choices. Persian poet Rumi’s inquiring eyes are upon us: “Why do you stay in prison when the door is so wide open?” Likability, the source of all kinds of magic, tells us more than we want to know and gives us more than we want to have. Above all, before receiving it, you have to demonstrate your pure heart and strong spirit--it’s not about the scars—it’s all about your heart. True charisma comes from within; the most beautiful things rise from patience. The flower of likability doesn’t blossom from the seed without the persistent love of generous giving, complete compassion, and pleasant patience. When connection and connection meet, every glow, every fragrance, and every crowning the bigger world offers, will be bolder, brighter, and more believable. Do you wish you could be like the cool kids? The purpose and excitement of the pursuit of likability remind us of our “Happy Together” weekends. Happiers are brighter than the stars. Hopefully, Happiers’ likability can be the light for more positive changes! Join us. Thanks!!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WwyaZyNwU8U






With Gratitude,
Jasmine

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