20200222, Article, Taichung

[Jasmine0316]

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Time：第 500 會，2020 年 02 月 22 日（週六）下午2:30~5:30
Place：
http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewtopic.php?t=15

Agenda
14:30~15:30 Session One
15:30~15:50 Speech Session
15:50~16:00 Change Group and then Break Time
16:00~17:15 Session Two
17:15~17:30 Happy Time

Host: Vicki
Assistant Host:

Topic::
Japan’s deep connection to childish relationships
Source:
https://www.bbc.com/future/article/2019 ... ationships

Please Note:
Venue:台中市南屯區 大業路182號 Mos Burger二樓
Thanks a lot for your attention.

Questions:

1. Have you ever heard about the word “Amae” before reading this article? Do you play “Amae” sometimes? If yes, in what kind of situations do you play “Amae”, at home or at work? Does it work?

2. This article mentions “Learning how to read people, what is an appropriate level of amae, who is the appropriate person to engage with…” It sounds like a great social skill. Do you personally know anyone who is good at this skill? How do they usually handle this skill?

3. According to the expert, “Amae in adulthood may partly trace their roots to childhood rejection.” How do you interpret it? Does it mean the person lacks confidence or the person is narcissistic?

4. In recent years, it’s common to find some adults still depend on their parents to support them in every aspect of their life. What causes this phenomenon? What’s the most impressive example you’ve heard about?



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http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewtopic.php?f=1&t=1766
週六晚餐(Saturday Dinner)
http://www.happyforum.org/happy/viewforum.php?f=76
戶外活動(Club Outing)

[Jasmine0316]

Dear Taichung Happiers,

Children are stars, true treasures—they blossom and they glisten. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MZFbLbUzzO4

Be childlike, not childish! In the book The Story of Civilization, the Award-winning author Ariel Durant filmed the musical Christ Mozart in one take. “Mozart began his works in childhood and a childlike quality lurked in his compositions until it dawned on him that the Requiem he was writing for a stranger was his own.” If we are for a moment to close our eyes, we can with ease transport ourselves back to a bright moment playing with a kid. It is also amazing how vividly we remember some specific scenes from childhood. There must be a song or dance you knew when you were a child—as soon as you knew it, you knew it’s what happiness looks like, what happiness would be. Now, what childhood experience are you thinking of? Do you sufficiently appreciate this experience? Indeed, it is more than indispensable for grown-ups to keep their childhood from becoming a foreign land. Look at the children—they are widening their eyes in a silent message—what message is it? Meanwhile, the way we grin at kids carries an air of expectation. Kids are stars—they blossom and make others blossom! We even take considerable pride in being able to re-gain childlike curiosity and relationships. Regarded as one of the founders of realism in European literature, French novelist and playwright Honore de Balzac (20 May 1799 – 18 August 1850) whispered the words of comfort: “It is the mark of a great man that he puts to flight all ordinary calculations. He is at once sublime and touching, childlike and of the race of giants.” Sounds like the contemplation of childlike manners might afford us some admirable amusement. Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to join us in identifying the WOW Factors!

Every child is a natural born host of happiness. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Y5R8K7OKSo&t=74s There are moments, endless moments, in which kids are buzzing—they are simply and passionately happy. They can eat happiness like bread. Unceasingly, we hear kids’ expression “for now”—it is the link to why kids certainly know how to live. Most importantly, the strength of feeling governs the degree of happiness; gratefully, we recognize the expression of contentment on kids’ faces. https://www.livehappy.com/relationships ... -happiness Moreover, kids never run after anything just to have anything picture-perfect. They let everything coming to their hearts be the answer. They purely follow the world, and profoundly do things the world suggests. Being childlike inspires us to find as many ways as possible to re-view this world without any judgmental thoughts. Being childlike is the invisible wing lifting everyone up. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KIysMV9wbVY Award-winning architect Maya Ying Lin simply put: “The process I go through in the art and the architecture, I actually want it to be almost childlike. Sometimes I think it's magical.” A sunny childlike mind, sweet and sincere, is affluently open to the allure of the world. The childlike mind! When we remember it all perfectly, our mood lightens considerably; what’s more, there is a glow of intelligence and feeling on our faces. Being childlike is like having a lovely dream, rich with promise, and we are smiling at it. https://www.workingtolive.com/5-ways-ch ... -childish/

Children’s eyes never stop dancing. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eS-hcbxqpzs What we really talk about when we are talking about childlike relationship? After growing up, yes, we are more thoughtful than before; yet, we have also become somewhat distant, and, somewhat distracted. Distracted, yes. In this digital age, that magic click can constantly in the blink of an eye give us simple, straightforward satisfaction. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tFlDWciH5fQ On the other hand, whatever kids are feeling in relationships—fear, anger, or surprise--they never do anything to hide the sign of it on their faces. They wear their emotions like a coat, and it provokes flexibility--the first requirement in a relationship. It makes a diverted set of connections visible again. Above all, it tells us what attachment really means when it can so easily be neglected. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yP86-TR6IME Any relationships in adulthood are not quite the same as any relationships in childhood. Children are interesting and likeable. Children conduct cheerful, intelligent conversations. They always hug our shoulders here and spark a conversation there—they have instinctive information of all the attitudes in every corner. Children’s eyes never stop dancing. They want to know everything we say, and their interest flatters us. This sweet attentiveness is absolutely what creates the connections. https://www.nbcnews.com/better/pop-cult ... ncna881401

From “The Little Prince” (by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry)

It's the time you spent on your rose
that makes your rose so important...
People have forgotten this truth,
but you mustn't forget it.
You become responsible forever for what you've tamed.
You're responsible for your rose.

We hear the smile of creativity in kids’ voice, whatever they say. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_dxz_QvGLP4 Our fondness for children grows when we realize that every child is a child of remarkable spirit. Kids attract us with their quiet self-possession, their curiosity. However, we shouldn’t take kids’ words at face value. They are so imaginative. They dream of, and think of possibilities, not difficulties. All imaginable possibilities. When we learn from childlike imagination, we are pierced with a sense of astonishment and awareness. Here is what the research has proved. https://www.ideastogo.com/articles-on-i ... -proves-it Taichung Happiers’ best friend Albert Einstein also unveiled the secret to creativity. “To stimulate creativity one must develop childlike inclination for play and the childlike desire for recognition.” Kids--although they are only kids, we believe they can read situations with some accuracy. A unique sort of communication and a flight of imagination empower childlike curiosity to further solve problems and sustain success. https://www.lifehack.org/287503/7-reaso ... successful For kids, curiosity will never go out of fashion! To celebrate the tremendous flowering of creativity that occurs under the umbrella of the childlike curiosity, we should immerse ourselves within a child’s spirit and vision. What life purpose can we find, if we haven’t curiosity to light the way? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6wkNdj8LroY

Children are stars, true treasures—they blossom and they glisten. The central criteria of our well-being is a concept of human nature, and what is proper to it. Every time we listen to a childlike mind, a sense of relief and comfort washes over us. What is our job as citizens but another name of the pursuit of happiness? There might not be a measure of happiness; yet, there is always beauty, authenticity, and endless decency. Always learn from a childlike mind and make every kid’s name interpret a certain impact; make every kid’s name relied upon to induce attention and appreciation. American businessman and venture capitalist Stephen T. Jurvetson is incredibly insightful. “Truly original thinkers tend not to be entrepreneurs who've spent 10 years at Cisco and can be trusted to know what they're doing. They tend to be 26 years old and highflying. They often have a very childlike mind, with some naivete.” Childlike manners light up this world. A childlike smile is a glow. Very quickly, a glow becomes a spark becomes a flame. It’s like, we must believe in spring. In this club, we always laugh a lot and have childlike happy time! In that laugh, in that moment, we feel warm, sweet, like something sparkling with sunlight, no dark thing exists. Therefore, let us embrace every childlike smile, every childlike curiosity, and every childlike innocence. Join us. Thanks!!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R3Gn7KDiLFM





With Gratitude,
Jasmine

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